Our
relationship with God is a lot like our relationships with anyone else we might
find ourselves loving. There are times when it’s sustained by will, by the
conscious decision to keep going, even though we might not feel anything very much. Gradually that decision of will and its
consequences affects the heart, the bundle of affections, habits, conceptions
and perceptions which comprise our person, until it becomes impossible to
imagine our own lives separate from that relationship, and out of that emerges
a deep peace and serenity.
There have
to be two things that make this act of sustained will reasonable, though. The
first is that there is sentiment, and therefore the practised memory of
sentiment, of our first encounter with God or the initial emotions that
surrounded the person we love: that sustains our decision of will, waters its
soil, as it were. Secondly, the object of our love has at least to be trying to
love us in the same way, or the whole business becomes pathological, and not
the act of a reasonable being. You have to get something back from them; they
have to want to give something to you.
What, then,
do we get back from God? The difference
between the relationship of faith and other sorts is that faith requires that
first we decide that God is there at all; and often that assertion seems to fly
in the face of everything we experience. We only get something back from him
once we’ve decided that he exists, and no such ambiguity is present in our
other affections. The collapse of belief folds up the relationship because we
can no longer see that we are receiving anything from him, and if we can’t see
that we’ll be unable to sustain our belief. The two motions reinforce each
other. In either case, the memory of the sentiment from which our faith grew,
if there was any in first place, will wither and disappear.
There is
certainly no point feeling guilt about it: like losing your love for a person,
it’s just a fact. For it to change, for the stump of faith to sprout again, all
those elements will have to be present afresh – the sentiment, the awareness of
receiving, the possibility that God might be there. It’s such a fragile and
uncertain business.
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