It happens remarkably seldom that I have proper theological conversations with anyone at all, much though that may surprise people. Yesterday my visiting brought me to a council tenant in some of the new houses down the hill who was somewhat bemused to greet me at the door, a young couple relocating to the parish from Fulham and who were apparently very excited to have a visit from the rector - or it may have been hysteria caused by the stress of moving - and a new member of the congregation. Conrad is of mixed Polish-Irish extraction and had a traumatic education at the hands of an authoritarian group of Jesuits some fifty years ago, and spent thirty years as a Buddhist before finding his way back to Christianity over the last year or so.
"I kept waking up and feeling thankful," explained Conrad, "and no matter what I did the feeling wouldn't go away. Gratitude makes no sense in Buddhism: the world is something to be liberated from, and in any case there is nothing to be thankful to. Gratitude implies a relationship."
Conrad went at first to a church not far away, then "feeling I ought to go back to the True Faith" visited a local church of the Roman observance on the morning the hapless priest had to read out a statement from the bishop denouncing same-sex marriage. So he dipped his toe in the water at Swanvale Halt and decided to stay.
I doubt, sadly, his experience is especially typical ...
"Gratitude makes no sense in Buddhism: the world is something to be liberated from, and in any case there is nothing to be thankful to. Gratitude implies a relationship."
ReplyDeleteConrad should have paid more attention. Gratitude ("Katannu" in Pali) was frequently praised in the highest terms by the Buddha himself, and is considered a valuable part of practice. Gratitude towards one's parents is particularly highly praised, but it is recommended that we cultivate gratitude to all beings who help us.
"Respect, humility,
contentment, gratitude,
hearing the Dhamma on timely occasions:
This is the highest protection."
(The Maha-Mangala sutta)
I was of course summarising Conrad's comments outrageously, but I think his sense of gratitude was something more diffuse than directed to particular experiences or facets of life. It was more a general experience of exaltation which expressed itself as thanks. I suppose you *can* be 'grateful' to trees and flowers as they are beings, but it's stretching it a bit.
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